Some of life’s best moments are simply unplanned. As many of you know, (especially if you follow me on Twitter) my drama 🦙 life has been extremely depleting as of late in many many ways. My husband admitted or not is having a major depressive episode, where one type of abuse has stopped but my therapist revealed another has begun.
This coming week brings with it challenge of two birthdays in the same week only one day apart for the two most prominent men in my life. My husband turns 32 and my son turns 15. I have no real money to spend on gifts, the best I was going to do was $5.00 on a gift for my husband, and $15.00 cash to my son. I went grocery shopping on Friday for the first time completely alone. It was difficult, I forgot my cane, and my right leg was done by the time I rummaged up some supplies to get us through a few days.
I used coupons at our local Winn Dixie, and scored laundry detergent for free because I had $4.65 in points to use. After my grocery shop thanks to a points bonus scan, I landed $25.00 in free points. It was unplanned, but I made up a snack attack pack (snacks unique to him) for my husband and used the points to purchase a preserved tie dye rose for him in a glass globe. It cost me nothing out of pocket. (the buyer’s remorse in me will silently lecture on how that should have been for dish soap, laundry detergent, and dog food later.) I was very pleased because among the things that have been depleted is my creative energy and ability to make something from nothing. I could not muster a single idea 💡 on how to make these days special for either party.
My husband’s birthday is not until Monday, but I wanted to attempt a lift of his spirits, so I scribbled a note and placed the basket by our bedroom door yesterday afternoon, with an invitation for his choice of a trip to the beach or our local Spring Park.
We decided to take precaution and drive to the local spring fed park because it is not as far as the beach. I have to drive the Misfit Mustang sporting her battle wounds, as my insurance did not pay to repair my car because my husband due to his previous traffic citations is an excluded driver on my policy. I cannot afford the insurance prices when he is an included driver since he is such a high risk to the insurance agent.
My husband’s Papi and Tita gave him a call, the awesome surprise was they sent us money. They told my husband to split the funds with me! I was so surprised, it is not my birthday. My husband and I received $100.00 each. I am still beside myself in this. I have not a clue what to do with my part. I analyzed and analyzed, what if anything there is that I really want. Material things only fill a void temporarily. My husband wanted to go out to his favorite local Game Stop because his hobby involves his beloved Playstation 4. He used his funds after visiting two different stores.
We came home with the intention of charging our phones, and then driving to play Pokemon Go at the Spring Park. A thunderstorm was brewing in the distance, but we decided to grab our Tiny Dog and load ourselves in the car and go. It was gloomy and cloudy, but there are plenty of Pokestops in the park. My daughter is nine and still enjoys the playground, I had planned to walk on the dock/pier, but upon arrival it was overly crowded. We opted to simply walk the park and hide under a pavilion in the event of ☔️.
There is a feature in this park I had forgotten about. It has a very small fountain splash area. My daughter wanted to get wet, but we had abandoned any towels or change of clothes at the house. There was no way we were intentionally getting wet.
The idea crept into our collective heads to simply stick our feet in the fountains and test the water temperature. Before we knew it, we were dancing together, playing “water drums” from each beautifully lit fountain spray of water even entertaining a stranger’s toddler. We threw caution to the wind, and embraced the sulfur smell that comes from the springs, laughed, splashed, and talked with reckless abandon. It was an unplanned moment, we rode home on leather seats in soaking wet clothes, with my spouse, son, and Tiny Dog thinking we were on the brink of insanity with laughter. Something so unplanned and simple was amazing!!!
I did not realize the park is only 15 minutes from our house. It is a place we can frequent a little more if we want. I think I may have found a new muse and an outlet. Depression, and cabin fever have plagued this family much as of late. While it wasn’t the beach and a swim I so desperately want, it is an amazing and unique experience in it’s own way.
What unplanned moments have surprised you this week?
Loving unplanned moments in Plain Sight,
Masquerade Jade 🤩